So a dear friend of mine called me “Carrie” after reading my blog on “Deal breakers in a relationship ”. If you missed out on that one, you can read it here (then this article will make much much more sense). Since I have been termed as “Carrie”, so my Mr.BIGG please make sure you do all these things when you find me :p (Carrie and Bigg are main leads of popular series Sex and the city, to know more about them, click here.)
- Always communicate
So this is something I strongly believe in, you should always COMMUNICATE even if it is the smallest of the thing. For eg. You did not like something about your partner during a party or some action ended up hurting you, always communicate. Yes it would hurt your partner’s feeling but it’ll strengthen the foundation of your relationship. Another important thing- DO NOT GO OFF TO BED ANGRY. If you have a problem try to resolve it the same day but at the same time it is important to know when you are intruding your partner’s space. If you are intruding, then give it time. Know when to do what!!! The minute you let the communication stop for too long, trust me the relationship loses its essence and especially if you are looking for a long term one, so always remember to communicate.
Look communication helped Ross soo much! :p
- Take interest in each other’s life
This is VERY VERY VERY important!! I learnt this from a friend of mine, she is a glamorous designer and her fiancé is a doctor. I always asked them how they made it work, since their personalities and job profiles are so different. “What do you even talk about?” “Does he even understand your world?” After being in a 3 year relationship and now finally tying the knot, my friend responded, “The secret is WE TAKE INTERESTS IN EACH OTHER’S LIFE. The fact that our lives are so different, gives us more topics to talk on. I attend his boring conferences and in return he rewards me by attending my fashion weeks etc. When we don’t understand something about each other’s world we always ASK and just don’t let it be (coming to my point no.1- always communicate). So a lot of time he’ll be explaining me complicated medical procedures and I would be telling him how fuchsia and hot pink are not the same (:p). I have evolved so much as a person because of him, he acts as a ying to my yang.” So opposites do really attract, if done right :p.
Chuck and Blair are the best examples of taking interest in each others life. Bass was there for Blair’s scheming and Blair was there for chuck when the Bass empire was in trouble!
- Experience new things together
Now it is not easy to keep spark in a long term relationship magically. You need to put in effort and how do you do that? “by keeping things exciting”. How do you keep things exciting? TRY NEW THINGS together, routine always become boring. On top of my list is TRAVEL- every 2-3 months, pamper yourself and take out time to make new memories.
Travel, travel travel!! <3
If your work schedule or family obligations does not allow that, try finding new things to do in the city. A new movie or a new restaurant/café. Go do new things to make new memories. Some maybe good, some maybe bad but at least they would be NEW, keeping the relationship spicy.
P.s:- Going to be too cheesy but even a heartline has its up & downs, so good and bad memories will make a perfect heartbeat. :p
- Be each other’s best friends
I am going to quote Shahrukh Khan from Kuch Kuch Hota Hain, “agar woh meri sab se achchi dost nahin ban sakti, to main usse kabhi pyar kar hi nahi sakta … kyun ki dosti bina toh pyar hota hi nahin … simple, pyar dosti hai!” Well I truly believe in this! The frankness & happiness you get with your bestie, you should get with your partner too. I am not saying make your partner your one and only friend but have a relationship with him/her like you’ll have with your bestie.
A lot of times men don’t tend to share their work issues with their women or sometime they are checking out a girl and they are too scared to talk about it! Well girls it’s very natural, so you should be open and emotionally mature enough to discuss it and vice versa a guy should be able to accept his girl as it is and should be open enough to have a conversation like we probably have with our best friends.
- Spend time with each other’s friends
For any long lasting relationship, it is important that you get along with each other’s immediate friend circle. Not asking you to become best friends with your partner’s friends {if you can then Kudos!} but yeah friendly enough to enjoy a nightout or trip with them. Always remember friends are a line of support whenever there is a problem in a relationship. So if your partner’s friends think well about you, they’ll always try to cement cracks in your relationship. And a good friend circle always lead to new memories, strengthening your relationship with your partner.
Miranda helps BIGG get Carrie.
These are my top 5 advices for keeping a long term relation going. If you have any other advice or suggestion, feel free to write in the comment section. If you have any query or doubt feel free to write in to us and I’ll surely try to help you. Hope this article helps, do give me your feedback. Lots of love, xoxo.
